Don't you just love complaining? It's so easy to do, and the more you do it, the better you get. And, if you really want to get even better, make sure you associate with other complainers. It seems that the more you associate with other complainers, the more you complain. The fine art of complaining seems to be catching on because no matter where you go, you can listen to other people complain. ARHHHGGG!!!! I know, I know, just here me out , because you know that you do complain, just as I from time to time.....
So , why is the fine art of complaining so prevalent?hmmmmm...
Well, the story is that it is easier to complain than to accept responsibility for what may be wrong in your life. If you accept responsibility for some of your woes, you may have to take action that changes events in your life. Now, why would you want to do that? lol , anyone feeling little conviction yet? This insight is from the reflection of my own life...
The truth is this. You can change from negative to positive only if you choose to. No one forces you to be negative, and no one forces you to be positive. The choice is yours', and yours' alone. If you really want to change your life for the better, you need to accept the basic principle that it is up to you. You can control your thoughts, you can control your emotions, and you can control what and where you go in life. This what I tell my kids in a certain situation, ok Robert, you can brush your teeth, or you can get a spanking and brush your teeth, its YOUR DECISION.. either way you are going to brush, but you choose in which path will get you there.the happy path or the crying one.
Nay sayers and negative people are everywhere. And, you'll also find a host of so-called friends that will tell you that you can't do or have more than they do because this would burst their bubble of complaining. These so-called friends want you to fail so that they can validate their existence - an existence full of misdirection, negative thinking, and expecting everything for nothing. OK I don't have my bible on hand , but somewhere in Proverbs, it says stay away from the fool... I will give you the exact scripture to back this up later ...
To begin the process to positive change, make a commitment to yourself that you will be more, have more, and do more. Once you take responsibility for your own actions, your behaviors, your thoughts, you are beginning to take a positive step forward. Once you start, ban all negative thinkers from influencing you. Turn a deaf ear to those who would ridicule you for beginning a course that creates positives not negatives. Better yet, associate yourself with positive, encouraging, and helpful people. They do exist.
Alas, my husband and I are positive thinkers from this day forward.
I have made a good effort, now its actually became a habit to be happy and positive. It sure makes the days easier in the midst of chaos.
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I'm sorry but telling someone to smile and put on a happy face will not change the fact that their mother has cancer, or their husband beats them or their father is dead. Sometimes life throws you curves and complaining about it, letting it out is your only sourse of solace. Positive attitudes are fine in theory, but a little harder to put into practice when you're faced with the man who abused you or when you bury a loved one. Sometimes people complain because they actually have very troubling and painful lives and assuming that just because someone isn't positive that they are a fool is wrong. Sometimes people complain about breaking a nail or losing a cell phone because it is just too hard to talk about what is really going on in thier life. I find that most people I know have it a lot harder than I realized and it would be foolish of me to not respect that fact or to assume I know every heartache that they have known.
ReplyDeleteTrying to stay positive is in fact important, but let us not forget that most people we hear on the street complaining are real people and might have real problems we can't even comprehend.
Nicely said.
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